If you are dating casually – or hoping to improve your casual dating game – it is important to understand that if done improperly, dating can be very expensive.
A traditional “dinner and movie” can easily set you back fifty dollars and for someone you may not see again, it begs the question: is it worth it?
The inexpensive date ideas are also great for couples who are looking to enjoy some additional time together without spending a lot of money.
Get walking
A simple walk and conversation is probably the most popular date for casual daters. Get her to meet you at your place and head out for a comfortable walk. Make sure you know where you are going and feel free to stop and grab a cup of coffee to go before you begin.
Many people bash the “coffee date” and we completely agree unless you take it to go. Kinetic energy is a must for any date – it’s important to keep moving.
This is our first choice for a date. It allows you to practice and use your verbal game and the change of scenery that a walk provides gives you plenty of things to discuss and talk about. Unlike if you were sitting in a coffee shop or staring at each other eating an awkwardly assembled burger.
Also, it is easy to end the walk at the same location that it began – your place – which may lead to a pleasant end to the evening.
The athletic date
This date involves getting out to a gym or field and getting a little active and athletic. Make sure to choose something fairly neutral and simple. Skating at the local rink, frisbee in the park, or a game of badminton at the local gym or sports center. Don’t choose something too competitive or something that you are an expert in as it may take the fun out of it.
If you are wanting to get into a gym for free for the day, simply tell the people at the front desk that you two are interested in joining the gym and wanted to try the facilities first. Nine out of ten times they will give you each a free day pass.
Your place
Seems simple enough. Paul Janka talks about this really well in Attraction Formula. This doesn’t mean sitting awkwardly in front of the TV. Instead, enjoy a glass of wine and a nice conversation.
Often times it will be challenging to convince someone to spend an evening in your apartment for the first date. Instead of outright asking, try suggesting that the date start at your place and when she arrives simply take your time getting out the door.
If she rejects, don’t push it. Turn the date into a casual walk.
The downtown date
This isn’t one of our favourites – mainly because it can be rather expensive. That said, if you are both heading downtown with friends it can be an excellent neutral meeting ground to escalate things together.
Also, the logistics of this “date” can become confusing and frustrating if each of you are with several friends. Remember to pay for yourself and don’t get stuck thinking you have to pay for her drinks. There are plenty of other ways to raise your value that don’t include using financial resources.
Conversation can be tricky in a crowded and loud bar or pub, but mix in a little dancing, chit-chat, and a few drinks and things can escalate quickly into a sexual situation if that is your goal.
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