This is the conversation that will typically make or break most casual relationships and it can be a fragile time for a lot of couples.
From my experience this conversation is usually initiated by the woman (but not always) and usually involves a variation of these quick questions: What are we? or What do we call this?
Don’t miss this question.
Whoever asked this question just put themselves out there and likely feels a little vulnerable after asking it. It is important that it gets addressed.
Why does this conversation happen?
This conversation is usually sparked by curiosity to make sure that both parties are on the same level as far as the relationship goes. It is hugely important for couples as it gauges the degree of interest and what degree of feelings and effort is being invested to progress the relationship.
What is expected?
Obviously every relationship and couple is unique and there is no textbook answer or reply that one can give to this question or conversation. That said, be honest. This is likely your first “serious” discussion as a “couple” and it is a chance to be open about your thoughts and feelings.
The textbook answer.
I know I just said there is no textbook answer, but for all of you people who need one, I thought I’d offer it. Just make sure you mean it if you say it.
“You can call us whatever you’d like, just know I am not interested in seeing anyone else.”
This reply likely gives them what they wanted to hear – the idea of exclusivity and that you are not “dating around” so-to-speak – while not smothering things with an absolute definition of the relationship. Just understand that this reply gives them the permission to call you a boyfriend/girlfriend in public.
No comments yet.