Overcoming the fear of rejection is almost a necessity for successful dating. It is a huge barrier why a lot of men never approach women. So lets try to shake off this fear by taking a closer look at rejection.
It happens.
As the image above so kindly outlines – rejection happens. It typically isn’t personal even when it comes to dating, which can be hard for most people to understand. No, you probably didn’t stink, your hair wasn’t done the wrong way, you weren’t too skinny, etc.
Rejection in dating and picking up usually is caused by the situation. Perhaps she is not used to having a confident, interesting person approach her on the street, waiting for a bus, or at the coffee shop. She is put out of her comfort zone and makes a quick decision to dismiss the idea of a future rendezvous.
Rejected. But don’t take it personally – is that even the type of person you want to date?
It is their loss.
You have a lot to offer and are a great person. You put yourself out there and suggested a non-threatening opportunity to pursue future conversation or physicality.
If they reject this, it is no one’s loss but theirs. You didn’t hold back. They are the ones that will be forever wondering what would have happened if they accepted. Let them think about that.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket
If you are in the casual dating scene you likely won’t be chasing one woman at a time. The idea of ‘plenty fish in the sea’ comes to mind here. Don’t feel like you can only approach one woman and then wait to see what happens. Approaching many woman will give you more possibilities if some do reject you.
Don’t let Rejection lead to Obsession
It is unhealthy to obsess over rejection. If a woman does not want to see you, let her go. Remember after all it is their loss.
Unfortunately Obsession can happen. It typically occurs when you have excellent initial contact with a woman – and maybe even a casual first date – but then she slowly distances herself and even though she may say she wants to meet up, it never happens.
Be careful in situations like this and have the discipline to let it go and move on.
It gets better with time
Needless to say, like anything the more practice you get handling rejection the better you will become at handling it. It is important not to let the fear of rejection be the reason you do not approach women. The worst she can do is say no.
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For some great information on handling rejection in the dating world we highly recommend the reading: Attraction Formula by Paul Janka.
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