Ending a relationship is never easy. Obviously every relationship is different and there is no “best practice” to end one. Nor do we assume we know how to do it well.
However, there are certain things you can do and not do in order to minimize the damage and make it easier on both of you.
Be honest
Being up front and open about your feelings and thoughts can save a lot of grief in the long run. It is possible to have a civilized friendship with past girlfriends but it requires you to be honest.
It will be easier on the both of you if you are honest about your reasons why you want to end the relationship.
Don’t drag it on
It might be tough to rip it off like a Band-Aid if you have been with each other for years. Although it may take a few conversations to flush everything out, do not drag on the inevitable.
Dragging it on gives hope of repair to your partner and If you have already decided to take action to end your relationship, this could lead to extreme depression and obsession. Be open about your intensions with your partner and then have the conversations surrounding it.
Be realistic
If you have spent years together and think you can transition from being lovers to only friends in a day, week, or even a month – you are wrong.
Anger, sadness, and guilt are all emotions that may surround a break-up. Do not make promises you can’t or don’t want to keep or you will only escalate those emotions and make things worse.
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