A great relationships can become even better if you get along with the parents and family of your partner. This advice is great for both guys and girls who might be wondering how to meet my girlfriend’s or boyfriend’s parents or family.
We will discuss a few key aspects of meeting people in general that can be applied to leave a great first impression on the family or parents of your significant other.
Don’t “just be yourself” – be prepared.
We aren’t suggesting to be someone you aren’t. That said, just “being yourself” in the sense that you should act like you do when you’re staying home for an evening likely won’t cut it.
Don’t over analyze the family or situation, but make sure you know the names, occupations, and any important history of the parents and siblings before diving in.
In addition, make sure you have a decent answer to the inevitable “how did you meet” and “what do you want to do with your life” questions and that you are able to handle your own in a conversation. Remember to steer the conversation away from you and more about them.
Smile
A smile goes a long way when interacting with people – especially parents. A nice smile instantly increases comfort, raises the energy level, and creates a positive mood. It is hard to be unhappy around someone who is constantly smiling.
Don’t make it fake and make sure you are comfortable with it. A forced smile or a constant grin will be noticed. Be sincere.
Don’t do nothing
You’re nervous about meeting the family so you think that if you just keep to yourself and don’t do anything you won’t be able to mess it up. Perhaps. The goal of meeting the family should be to leave a positive first impression.
Sure, doing nothing and not leaving a bad impression is good, but it won’t gain the trust and build your value in the eyes of their parents the same way that being involved in the evening will.
Mirror people
Mirroring people is a technique that is used and practiced across many disciplines including psychology and business. It is hugely beneficial when gaining trust, building a relationship and “fitting in”.
It is important to understand that mirroring does not mean imitating. Imitating every move can make it seem as if you are mocking someone and have a negative effect.
What you want to do is simply mirror the mood, language, energy level, and demeanor of the parents, family, and the situation. This may mean you need to step outside your comfort zone for a while but you will quickly become more comfortable with exposure.
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